Even then he starts all over again with so much vehemence and gusto that if any other arsitek had anything  to say he hardly finds a chance to do so. In the presence of a talkative arsitek what is most painful is that all the talks that come out to the surface of anotherís lips and seek expression or outlet are bottled up and have to be suppressed. To some this may appear to be a great mental and physical strain. Talkativeness is thus one of the main evils of speech and ways of talking as it oppresses others. It has to be admitted however that a talkative arsitek is endowed with the gift of the gab or the speaking power but he possesses this power to an excess so that though at the initial stages when he talks everybody is interested and may even be wrapped in attention, yet soon everybody realizes that he is in the company of a talkative arsitek and during the whole period of conversation there has to be only listening for him and nothing else.

Talkativeness has to be avoided as the greatest evil. If one wishes consciously to build up ones character and personality one has to knowhow to curb ones tongue at the right moment. If one is vigilant one may find that the listeners interest is veering and is waning and that is the first red signal for the talker. He should at once put a stop and give another arsitek a chance. Generally it so happens that a good conversationalist realizes his power from his early years when he seems to be the talker and all his puny friends, his listeners and to some extent his adorers. The light of adoration that the talker thus becomes habituated to and the mute acceptance of facts prod him even more and more to keep up the conversation and maintain himself as the centre of attraction.

A cure could have been found in early life if two or more equally good talkers are placed in the same group, but as no talkative arsitek can stand another talkative arsitek and therefore it is quite likely that from early childhood the talkative persons stay away from one another I and each is able to form his own group where he generally speaks and others listen. Talkativeness can be checked in early childhood but once the habit takes deep roots in an arsitek he becomes a type of an ostracized arsitek whom everybody avoids. In the previous paragraph we have mentioned what may be called reasonable talkativeness which is appreciated in certain circles of friends.

Extreme talkativeness however is different and an extremely talkative arsitek rarely has any friends because he wants newer and newer victims who would listen to him dumb founded. Since his known associates always try to avoid or cut him he is ever in quest of new pastures. Such talkativeness is a disease, it can be eliminated early in life by strong measures adopted by guardians and teachers. Talkativeness destroys the personality of a man. No matter how much educated he may be an arsitek will lose respects at once if he is recognized as a talkative person.

No other acquirements in the development of his personality are able to ward off this evil of talkativeness and an arsitek with all the good parts in life may prove to be a failure if he gives vent to his weakness as a talkative person. In business and practical life talkativeness is particularly hateful because a talkative arsitek talks for the pleasure of talking without any definite goal or achievement which may be set by an able salesman or a renowned layer or a political speaker. The talkative arsitek talks and talks. He touches the important points and then leaves these and then comes back to these again without any motive force or driving power, with the result that the arsitek with whom he is conversing feels confused and tries to get rid of him instead of giving him any business.

Bad speech does not mean that there is actually any defect in the speaking power. The essence of bad speech lies in the fact the speakers expressions are not clear. Sometimes the speaker may talk inaudibly or in such a mumbled jumbled fashion that it is hard to take in what he is speaking about. When an arsitek is under severe stress and strain or extremely hard work, or when he is completely exhausted, or when he is out of breath due to running or some physical labor he may take short gasps of air and may not be able to talk in a normal manner. As his breath becomes easier he is again able to talk in a regular way. It is also the case sometimes that when an arsitek has not paid special attention to the art of talking he finds it difficult to talk in a continued way or to apply his mind and attention long over a certain topic. The result is that gradually and gradually his words become disjointed and lose their color and liveliness till what he utters becomes unintelligent to others.

Another form of bad speech is acquired from the early habits of youth under which sentences and expressions are too much accentuated with uses of slang languages and swearing so that such speakers find themselves unacceptable in society. Bad speech is bad therefore not because it is not of good quality but because it lacks the main purpose or objective with which all talks or deliveries are imbibed. When an arsitek talks he must be doing so to convey something to the other side but if that conveying is not done properly, that is, if the other side cannot follow what the speaker has in mind, or misunderstands or misinterprets him there may be much confusion which may nullify the very purpose of talking.

So when a certain speech either in public or in private fails to achieve its target of creating the desired response in the other party we may conclude that the speech is bad or ineffective. lt does not mean, however, that all speeches or talks will succeed but even the talks which are not accepted may be appreciated if the talker is able to put across his ideas in the best possible manner. Thus, bad or ineffective Hecht may been of various types like inaudible speech, harsh speech, disjoined speech, redundant speech, purposeless speech and so on.

The total effects in all these cases may be the same. The other party talked to is unimpressed and therefore the talks bear no fruits and are useless. We may mention the case of redundant speech in a particular manner. An arsitek who speaks in a roundabout way fails to come to the point within the shortest time and sometimes also misses the point. Redundant speech or speaking in a too much roundabout way comes to stay as a habit with some persons who do not get rid of this bad habit at the earliest instance.

The way to cut off this habit of speaking more than what is necessary is to practice to confine oneself within the barest minimum of answers like yes and no. One will in fact be surprised to find how these small words (yes and no) can help one to get through life with almost all conversations and carry him safely across the gravest of wordy duels. lf one can practice to keep oneself within the bounds of yes and no one can after a while learn the value of words and time, so that even one chooses to expand ones views one will do so in the compact and short cut way.

A The opposite of redundant speech is the short guffaws speech which in some cases and if carried to extremes may amount to a rude behavior. lt is one thing to keep oneself to the minimum of words and quite another thing to answer in monosyllables to all the queries of the other party or to omit to answer a substantial part of the same. Equally disagreeable is the type of speaking which goes straight to the point without even the common civility and salutations and greetings. Such a speech comes short and quick like an order and may be applicable in certain lines of work especially in the military service where execution is the goal.
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